You likely have a lineup of wedding invites on your calendar over the next few months, which means it’s time to give a little thought to what it takes to being a great wedding guest. There is an art to being a great guest and it’s important to do a little homework before each and every wedding you attend to ensure you act accordingly. Want to be a superstar guest? Alison McGill, Editor-in-Chief of Weddingbells Magazine offers six key points to remember. 

1. Respond to a wedding invitation promptly

Don’t leave it to the day it’s due! If you do have to cancel for some reason, relay that information as soon as possible. Even if it’s a last minute cancellation let them know—don’t just not show up!

Also if your invitation does not include a plus-one, don’t scribble in a guest’s name and assume that is acceptable. If you have a question about this, please ask the bride if it may be possible to bring someone and if it’s not, respect her wishes and guest list numbers!

2. Dress accordingly.

Weddings are a special event and should be treated as such when you are considering what to wear. Even the most casual of weddings requires a level of dressing up. Make an effort!

What you choose to wear will be influenced by the type of wedding (casual or formal), the time of day (brunch vs. evening). If you are unsure about what is acceptable, ask! The bride and groom will be only too happy to provide guidance. The number one thing to keep in mind is keeping your sartorial choices classy and not flashy. You don’t want to outshine the bride.

3. Don’t be late.

Arrive at the ceremony on time! This is paramount as it’s what the day is all about and it’s not a moment to be ‘fashionably late.’ Plan to arrive 30 minutes before the ceremony time so you have plenty of time to mix, mingle and be seated.

For the reception, if it’s in a different location than the ceremony, arrive on time for this also. If there is a receiving line, participate, don’t blow it off. This is your chance to congratulate the bride and groom and their families on the day. Enjoy the party and when it comes time to leave, be sure to thank the couple for a wonderful party before you depart.

4. Gift accordingly.

What is the appropriate amount of money to gift/spend on a wedding gift? That is the million-dollar question and one that only you have the answer to of what feels appropriate. The amount you spend on a gift is usually influenced by your relationship to the couple and what your budget comfortably allows.

If you were invited to the wedding, but can’t make it, it’s a nice gesture to still send the couple a gift (though it is not necessary).

5. Ask in advance if the event is social-media friendly and if the couple has created a hashtag for it.

Don’t assume everyone wants their wedding day moments shared on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, etc. Check to see if the couple has any restrictions on their day and respect those wishes. If they have a social media plan for their wedding, get involved and post away!

6. Don’t misbehave.

Yes, weddings are parties, and they can get raucous – but that doesn’t mean you have to. Don’t over-indulge in alcohol and don’t do anything that may embarrass yourself or the bride and groom. You don’t want to be remembered as ‘that guest.’

Looking for more “Big Day” tips, tricks and advice? Head to Weddingbelles.ca!

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